I wear my masculinity like a scar, like a wound and badge of honor in a world designed to cut down, discredit, make fun of, beat up, rape and murder variations of gender outside the binary.
Boys are this way and girls are that, what you say and when u say it has profound impact along the way and wounds cut deep.
Be sensitive cause I'm sensitive. Language is the game of mutual respect. I respect you for you in all of the diversity and beauty of the human race, will you believe me when I say who I am and my truth, will you see me when I walk down the street, will you see past the scars and pain and SEE me, will you HEAR me, not only "like" the reposts on social media and what I have to say, will you share my voice, will you share the voices of the marginalized who can barely catch their breath from all the self-advocating.
Will you hear that we are dying inside and on the streets, will you support us in spaces where we are not present so that you effect social change too. Or are we fair-weather friends that u look at and like like a piece of art, a piece of ass, a project to boost your diversity points amongst your friends.
Do u SEE me, do you HEAR me. This is not a phase, the world molded me this way. The dresses and the skirts and the makeup are all a part of my world, so is my masculinity. Celebrate Trans bodies and Trans lives and Trans voices. Lift them up as the world outside tears us down.
#translivesmatter #girlslikeus #trans #genderproud #genderqueer #notonemore #transgender #luckysmichaels #feminineboys #masculinegirls #seeme #hearme
If you see a Trans person being assaulted on the train or streets of NYC, consider your privilege. Chances of them being frightened by everything that breathes at that moment are pretty high, including you. So often these assaults happen and not a single person moves to help! As if it is none of their business. People watch and listen as if it is a favorite show, one they have seen before and remains a guilty pleasure.
In that moment I will continue to pray that 1 person has the sense to stand between me and the assailant/s. I'll pray that I have the sense not to cry, to show any weakness in that moment makes you more vulnerable to further assault. Do not give them the satisfaction of hurting you. Every time it HURTS. I store the pain away and allow it to build up and chip away at a fragile spirit. So many times I've been a physical barrier between cis-people being assaulted yet all the voices stop but the bully while I shrink into my subway seat. If some day u do stand up, please don't touch me. Don't try to console me in front of my assailants. Just allow me to get to safety and maybe ask if there is you can provide any further assistance. Leave me alone. I'm familiar with alone and scared. Trans people are well aware this may be the time we are splashed all over the news and media and again not much is done in response. We may be another name added to the list of violence, the list of Trans murders, the list of names with NO heroes or sheroes in the story. Surely you must see us. You can hear them I am certain of it.
If it's none of your business, then who's is it? Is it my burden? But I've already done so much self-advocating and teaching you about my Trans identity. I've fought to dress myself and pee in peace. Well truthfully most days I can't do that yet. I'm misgendered repeatedly as though I'm irrelevant or I'm too much work for you. Allow me to get to my destination and remove myself from harms way. Please allow every article of clothing and piece of hair and beat face to remain meticulously in place when I get where I am headed. It's my skin and I already do not feel like i fit into it, let alone when it is torn away from me. Let me hold my head high and not stare at the ground, I am a gift just the way I am. I may be scared to take the train or walk the streets alone, understandably.
I love NY. If it cannot see or hear me when I am in need, who will?
..."is that your REAL hair?"
Trans people face stupid questions all the time.
This is a PSA.
If you're not Trans, open a new browser and google "what not to ask a Trans person" please note whether what u read is actually written by a Trans person.
I'm a Trans woman and my hair exists in many stages many colors many lengths and many styles. Every look is REAL. Yes I am a REAL girl and all of my parts are thus REAL. My pronouns are She/Her (note that people have pronouns and it is not a preference just as my identity isn't a preference it is a truth about who I am). My ID affirms that I am who I say I am & it is recognized as such in the country I live in.
There are things that are alright to ask such as what are your pronouns, or you the usual... How is your day going, are you from New York originally, are you enjoying the weather? Gender police BEWARE! Trans people are as REAL as it gets! I walk around taking note of all the FAKE-A$$-people out there surrounded by their "stuff" secure by whatever others affirm their norm to be while absolutely dead to the fact that humans are a very beautifully diverse species. I will get a hair cut or all of my HAIRS cut or not get a haircut and always be me, in bed, at home, at work, out and about... Language is about respect and I respect you, respect ME. Although you see me in a multitude of ways, the fundamental facts about who I am do not change. See me! Hear me!
Do not hurt me!
Stand up for me!
I am REAL in every way!
#transgender #transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #transisresistance